Helping Yourself Heal
Your life has changed, and the emptiness may at times feel overwhelming. Your life journey has taken a new and unexpected direction, but you do have the strength to step along this path, which will lead to peace and healing.
ALLOW yourself to grieve. Accept the reality of your loss and acknowledge your thoughts and feelings. Healing cannot begin until you have given yourself permission to grieve.
ACCEPT that your grief is unique. Everyone grieves differently, because each person and relationship is different. Don't compare this grief with others, or expect it to last a certain period of time. Try to take things one day at a time.
EXPECT to feel many different emotions. You may feel confusion, fear, guilt, anger or other strong emotions. Don't let these feelings frighten you. They are normal, healthy expressions of grief. Try to understand and learn from them.
SHARE your thoughts and feelings. Expressing your grief openly doesn't mean that you are losing control. Talk about your spouse and share your memories with supportive friends and family.
BE COMPASSIONATE with yourself. Some days will be more difficult than others. Holidays, birthdays and special occasions are particularly emotional times. Do what feels right for you at these times.
TREASURE your memories. Allow good memories to bring you comfort. Difficult memories can also bring healing, if you can express them openly. Whether they make you laugh or cry, memories are a lasting part of your relationship.
Some Things to Consider
Few events in life are as painful as the death of a spouse. Losing your companion, the person with whom you shared your life, feels like losing a part of yourself.
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